07 Nov Ten tips for new mothers
The arrival of your first baby is a life-changing experience and can of course be overwhelming, especially in the beginning. That first month can all be new and scary and challenging. Here are some tips to keep you grounded, patient and forgiving.
1. Do what works for you
As soon as you have a baby, other people suddenly become experts and they will love to inundate you with their advice and opinions. You need to make sure that, among all the parenting fads and blogs that are out there, that you find your own way. Follow your instincts and find a lifestyle that really works for you (and your baby!).
2. Follow your instincts
That gut feeling is something that you should always trust, particularly as a new mother. It can be easy to be persuaded when others are recommending ways to feed, care for and even cuddle your baby. However, don’t ever give in to pressure from outside people over something which you feel is wrong for your baby.
3. Routines, routines, routines
I know that we bang on about it a lot, but a good routine is golden. It is the key to a happy baby and (therefore) a happy mother. Although putting a good routine in place can take time, as soon as your baby becomes comfortable in knowing what to expect when, there will be no unpleasant surprises. You can rely on the routine a lot in times of need and unrelenting crying!
4. Be flexible and forgiving
Form your routine as a response to your baby’s needs, not the other way around. Be prepared for the routine to grow and change as your baby does. Also, although you always need a routine to fall back on, don’t be too hard on yourself if you fall out of it now and then. You’re only human!
5. Do your research
If you’re in doubt about something, don’t be afraid to do your research. There are so many books, blogs and manuals out there to delve into and figure out which answers work for you. Be bold and choose which you believe, agree with aspire to do. Your have the right to choose whatever you feel is right as long as your choices are well informed.
6. Don’t underestimate the importance of bonding
Never feel guilty if you’d rather just have a cuddle than tidy the house. Frequent closeness is essential to building that mother and child bond. Throughout all the chaos, make time to do nothing but be with your baby. These are moments that you will never get back.
7. Accept neither of you are perfect
Frustration comes from something not going the way we hoped or expected, and is completely natural. Allow yourself to feel it, breathe through it and take a moment to accept that humans are not perfect, and a lot of the time things don’t go how we plan. This is even more true for a newborn baby so prepare your expectations accordingly.
8. Look into the future
As with everything, it’s easy to get bogged down in daily chores and routines. This is why it is essential to keep perspective. This special time with your first baby will fly by so make sure that you remind yourself to enjoy every moment of it.
9. Allow yourself to take shortcuts
Cutting corners is a must for all new moms. And don’t feel guilty about it!
10. Be patient with yourself
No, you are not magically given special powers when you give birth. You will make mistakes, and you need to make them so you can learn! Becoming a mother is a process, and it can be a bit of a bumpy ride to get to a place where you feel comfortable as a mother. Never feel ashamed to ask for a helping hand when you need one.
Here at The Nanny Line, we have a wonderful team of trained nannies who specialise in new born care. If you need just a little break, or regular help, contact us to find out more.
Do you have any more tips for brand new mothers? Are you a new mother yourself? Share your tips or questions with us in the comments!
Written by Kelly Lindsey Abel.